Understanding Masculine and Feminine Energy: Reclaiming Wholeness
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Alright, Let’s get one thing straight: masculine and feminine energy are not about gender. They never were. But for centuries, we’ve been sold a version of these energies that serves systems, not people.
Growing up, I was taught that being a woman meant embodying a distorted version of “femininity”—quiet, agreeable, soft, and, most importantly, desirable to men. Anything outside of that was “too much.”
Meanwhile, men were fed the lie that masculinity was about dominance, control, and emotional suppression. They were told that softness made them weak, that vulnerability was a liability, and that their worth was measured by how much they could provide and protect.
These stories don’t just limit us—they disconnect us from ourselves. They keep us locked in a battle between two false extremes, severing us from the real power that masculine and feminine energies hold. When we reduce them to rigid gender roles, we shrink their meaning, their depth, and ultimately, ourselves.
Masculine and Feminine Energy Are Universal Forces
The truth is, these energies exist within all of us, regardless of gender identity. They are archetypal forces, present in nature, mythology, and the human psyche.
Masculine energy is structure, action, protection, and focus. Feminine energy is intuition, flow, receptivity, and creation. One is not better than the other—they work together. When we deny one or hold onto the other too tightly, we fall into imbalance, and that imbalance plays out in our relationships, careers, and personal growth (Energy is also deeply tied to our nervous system. Learn more in my Nervous System Attunement Series)
Why Society’s Definitions of These Energies Are Harmful
Society has long equated masculine energy with power and logic while reducing feminine energy to submission and emotion—as if emotions aren’t one of the most powerful forces on the planet. These old narratives have caused harm in more ways than we can count:
Women are shamed for embodying their masculine energy. If a woman is direct, assertive, or driven, she’s labeled as aggressive, bossy, or cold.
Men are shamed for embracing their feminine energy. If a man is intuitive, emotional, or nurturing, he’s dismissed as weak or unmanly.
Nonbinary and gender-expansive people are erased from the conversation entirely. When we tie these energies to rigid gender roles, we fail to recognize that they exist beyond the binary.
But here’s the thing: Your strength is in your wholeness.
Masculine energy isn’t toxic—what’s toxic is the rigid, unbalanced version of it that prioritizes dominance over depth. Feminine energy isn’t weak—what’s weak is a society that fears the depth of emotional intelligence, intuition, and creation.
The Importance of Integration
Listen, you don’t need more of one energy or less of the other—you need balance. Women need masculine energy to uphold their boundaries, and men need feminine energy in order to connect deeply to themselves and others. True embodiment and empowerment comes from the integration of these forces. It’s knowing when to be decisive and when to surrender, when to push forward and when to listen, when to protect and when to trust.
Reclaiming wholeness means rejecting the narrow definitions we’ve been given and rewriting our own. It means tapping into both energies as tools rather than restrictions.
Because when we allow ourselves to embody both, we unlock something deeper—a full, authentic, and embodied sense of self.
Wishing you so much sweetness on your journey,
Taren
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